The whole balance of the Christian life in the church and in homes and fellowships of whatever kind is summed in that wonderful phrase of St.Paul in Ephesians 4.
Speaking the truth in love.
Truth and love - the balance is important - these two things need to be constantly kept in balance .
When love is more important than truth, then fellowship descends into a sentimentalism, where there are an increasing number of things that cannot be said because they are hard and therefore seen as unloving; where resentments and disappointments a re never left behind because they are never truthfully addressed; where the "friendliness" becomes increasingly fragile and more a matter of surface politeness than real sharing or mutual understanding. You, oddly, find this in fellowships who emphasise their friendliness - "we're a friendly church",( the unspoken implication being "and people who ask akward questions or who dig beneath the surface aren't all that welcome") Sometimes there is a darker side to Christian cheerfulness than is usually recognised.
When truth is more important than love then doctrinal correctness is valued more than a fellowship maintained steadily in spite of misunderstandings and different outlooks. Fellowship degenerates into a huddling together of the like minded, warmed by the thought of the unhappy fate of the unbelievers outside the sacred citadel. I need hardly say that is very rarely the way with the U.R.C.